Life is not complex, we are complex ! I believe that life is not really difficult but it’s rather us who make things complicated. It’s either you choose between good or bad, straight or not. We have the tendency to presume things. Long enough and too ahead of the actual life condition. Most of us tell one thing, yet does another thing and most of the time contradictory of own decision.I was 28 when I had to make the biggest decision in my life. I had to choose between my family, keep my job, my friends and everything that concerns me and the matters of the heart. I have chosen the call of my heart even if it means that I would live very far from family, being jobless, living abroad and not being able to speak the language. In short, was an impasse and no turning back. I admit, it was not an easy choice because I am not certain what will be my life in the other side of the world. And I am sure I am not the only one in this floating ship. But at least, I made a decision. I never doubt myself or the man I love. I guess, I strived for simplicity so as to overcome life’s hurdles. At present, I have a fine life because I confronted the fear and assumed my decision. I choose what I wanted for myself without asking too many questions. Stop the what ifs, the I should have done this phrases, otherwise the worst thing that will happen to me is to live unhappily. I have focused my entire self on what I want to do, what I want to become in my life and not on welcoming the fear of not doing something….sure it takes a lot of guts.
I guess, things are not really complicated especially in choosing what you want and what you need for in life. It could be complicated if you have doubts from the choices you make then it will apparently become a problem. At some point in time, I also learned a few exceptions that there are also things or situations beyond our control and we cannot just choose. The only thing we can do is wait for that chance to come. But if you have a clear choice without getting into difficult condition ….then jump and do not falter.
It is wiser to settle your satisfaction based on your life’s experiences. Only you, who knows what will ultimately make you satisfied. So then, next time you’re faced with a big decision in life, do not search further because you know exactly what you want. Provided that you never allow a decision cost you something special. Screw material things – those are secondary and it’s not you. If a decision costs you material things, jobs, positions or whatever, you’ll get over it. Nevertheless, if it costs you someone that you love or would like to have, get ready to make a cut out of big “L” and tape it to your forehead…. L for loser ! Waking up one day telling to yourself why are you so darn stupid to let that chance but you blew it. Or regretting that should have done but you did missed out on a great opportunity. That is surely pathetic !
I probably took the standard deviations in my life in a lost forest but I chose the one less complicated and that has made all the difference
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I was engaged to someone else when I broke it off to start dating Xavier. I thought, "What if it doesn't work out with Xav? Where will I be then? How upset are my parents going to be? Why am I throwing away four and a half years with Alex and the promise of a stable life with an unknown future?"
Despite the questions, I KNEW I needed to leave my ex. It was a gut feeling and like you said, there was no doubt in my heart and mind the choice I've made. Best decision ever!
Nong younger days ko dapat may L sa forehead ko. Loser definitely because I fell for someone who was not good for me. I live my life with no regrets, even with mistakes, but that one "love" I wish I could toss away. Just pretend it didn't happen:)
Hahaha I've wore that famous "L" to my forehead for 2 long years ! I was definitely one because I was deaf and blind in-love to someone who was not good for me too. But I did not regret what I did and what is important now the present. Definitely, it was the biggest lesson I've learned from the past !
I agree with your views, to be captain of the heart, master of the soul. :-)
Or they dont know what is their left from their right.
Kaya nag kaka trouble, lalo na, they dont know how to handle things.
Simple eyes, simple desires.
it avoids running after the wind needlessly.
Almost everyone seem to have been there. Never forget that if it's not because of the past or the wrong decisions we made we will never learn. There's nothing wrong to regret things because you had the courage to do them rather than helplessly doing nothing! I'd like that about eyes looking forward ;) definitely right! Thank you Angelo if my post has helped you in a way...I am glad ! Ah, endless crossroads of life, we are all oblige to cross them it's just a matter of taking the right path and it's up to you to choose ;)! Just hang on there...you are wiser than you can imagine !
I took simple choices in life it's probably because my experiences were not complicated compared to others MT . And while growing up my father taught me how to face them no matter how hard our journey is in life...it's all about guts! And concentrate what I want in life not to let other people dictate my life. I think people who have gone through enormous trauma would be another stage. Surely it could be difficult but there's always an answer for that! Wow, am I really that ?? I am just trying hard to balance everything in my life ;)!
Why doubt Sidney? I don't have an exceptional life....I am just happy. The secret in fact, the plainer and simpler ;) !
nice article ;)
I like your quote there. :)