triplés....triplets

Mon Mari à invité une collègue de travail hier soir pour dinêr avec nous, pour qu'elle puisse souffler un peu dans sa vie quotidienne. Donc, j'ai preparé le repas, le menu: La salade comme entrée, le thon au curry et legumes pour le plat accompagné du vin rosé et une tarte confiture aux amandes accompagner de cidre.

Cette femme a eu des triplés qui n'est pas facile à manager. De plus son mari travaille à Lyon (330 km de Marseille) parce qu'il ne trouve pas de travail a Marseille. Donc, la femme travaille à Marseille et se retrouve toute seule pour s'occuper leurs triplés! Son mari reviens par le TGV (train à grande vitesse) a Marseille chaque weekend pour pouvoir l'aider et partager les responsibilités. Au début, nous avons parlé de leurs travail c'est qui est normal et moi j'ai aussi participée dans la conversation car mon Mari me dit tout.

Pendant le repas, j'ai posé des questions. Comment fait elle pour tout les jours mener de front les obligations avec des triplés? Est-ce qu'elle a encore le temps pour elle même? J'ai eu tout de suite sa reponse en ordre chronologique....(d'aprés mon mari c'est une personne trés organisée même au niveau du travail), elle se léve a 6 heures du matin, a 6 heures et démi elle prépare les trois bibérons, a 7 heures elle raméne les triplés a la crêche et aprés repart pour aller travailler a 7 heures et démi. Au travail ce n'est pas non plus facile pour elle, vous voyez un peu la pression qu'elle peut avoir tout les jours. Elle fini son boulot a 5 heures de l'après-midi parce qu'elle doit repartir chercher les triplés a la crêche. La vérite, elle arrive quand même à être a la hauteur. Quelle vie ! je me demande très sincèrement comment elle fait, ce n'est pas facile ! Lorsque, le plupart de nous quelques fois on se plaind pour des petites choses! Par contre dans son cas, quotidiennement elle doit combattre tous les événements et j'ai beaucoup d'admiration pour elle. C'est une femme qui a beaucoup de courage face a tout ça!

Aprés hier soir, j’ai le sentiment d’être très privilégiée, pourtant je ne travaille pas, j'ai du temps à consacrer pour mes enfants, j'ai un mari a côté qui me soutient, des amis qui sont prêt a nous aider en cas de besoin. J'ai du temps pour moi même, sortir, faire la fête, soirée etc.

Le fait d'être mère a également suscité chez moi une réflexion sur la signification profonde de ce mot. Etre une mère ne se limite pas suelement l’acte de donner la naissance, mais beaucoup de travail et des responsibilités.

Simple English Translation :

Yesterday my husband invited his officemate to have dinner with us because he wanted her to have a break from everydays life. So I have prepared the dinner, the menu : vegetables salade as a starter, tuna with curry sauce accompanied with rose wine and for the dessert cake made of jam and almond and cider (it's a sort of drink with only 2% of added alcohol ).

This woman has triplets which is difficult to manage. Adding to this, her husband works in another place ( in Lyon 330 kms. from Marseille ) because he cannot find a job in Marseille. So then, the wife works in Marseille alone with her triplets! Her husband returns to Marseille every weekend by train TGV (high speed train) so he can help her and allocate the responsibilities as parents . In the beginning, we have talked about their work which is normal in a conversation but I have also participated in their discussion because my husband tells me everything about his journey at work.

While dining, I have asked her questions. How do you carry out facing in this kind of obligations with the triplets? Do you still have time for yourself ? I had the response right away in chronoligical order....(according to my husband she's a very organize person even at work ), she wakes up at 6 o'clock in the moring, at 6:30 she prepares 3 feeding bottles, at 7 o'clock she sends the triplets in the nursery and then she needs to set off again for work arriving in the office at 7:30 in the morning. In the office, it's not also easy for her, can you imagine the pressure she has predominantly experiencing. At 5 o'clock in the afternoon, it is imperative to finish her job because she must leave to pick up the children from the nursery. The truth is, she administers very well her obligations and be on the top of it. What a life ! I was asking sincerely how she can be able to carry on, when it is not easy ! In most cases we sometimes complain for little things! But in her case, quotidian she needs to fight and overcome all this circumstances and I really admire her a lot for it. She's a woman who has a lot of courage facing all this situation.

After this night, I have this sentiments that I have all the previlege provided that I don't work, I have quality time to devote for my children, I have a husband beside me who supports me a lot, friends who's always there in case I needed them. I still have the time for myself, to go out from time to time, attend parties and all this.

To be a mother has equally emerge in me to have a serious reflection on the deep meaning of this word. Being a mother is not just giving birth , but it requires a lot of work and responsibilities.

Comments

Makis said…
Being parents is a big decision & responsibility - it changes everything! I cannot imagine how difficult it is for you friends & the current situation they have now - can I have one of the triplets??? hehehe - being a mother I guess is one the things that completes a woman's life & you will never know until you become one.

Have a great weekend, Haze!
Ligaya said…
hi haze! I admire your hubby's officemate, she is one super Mom!

as they say, having a baby changes everything. as a mother myself, I feel more responsible and complete now that we have Ninev in our lives. I couldn't ask for more, even if it means I have to give up some of the things I used and loved to do! =)

take care and have a wonderful weekend! =)
juliadxb said…
Hi Haze... u know it reminds me of one character in this TV series called Desperate Housewives..."Lynette"... i dont know if you're watching that series..but sure, her character is somewhat similar to this... Being a mom is not a joke.. in this series, Lynette even sacrifice her career (wherein she's already the VP of the company she's working) just to get full time and attention with her kids and husband of course... Once in my life i did the same when i got my little angel but there's no regret in it... I enjoy every minute i spent being a mom with my little angel and im sure you're experiencing the same thing with ur lovely kids....

well, just take care and have a wonderful day!!!! miss you friend!!!
Raquel said…
Mukhang may relation ang topic mo dun sa previous posting ko ah...kawawa naman ang oficemate ng asawa mo.

Tayong mga ina di talaga natin kaya na pababayaan nalang ang mga naak natin.

Thank you nga pala sa comment ha, sory din medyo natagalan ang reply, may problema lang kase konte.

O cge hanggang dito nalang, marami pa akong pupuntahan nga mga bloggers.
haze said…
Makis : Being a mother changes everything! It requires a lot of our time...I just hope that things will get better for her. Sige i'll ask her kung puede ibigay sa sa'yo yung isa! he he he

Ligaya : Absolutely, she's a SUPER MOM! Giving up something that you love for your child it worthwhile. They're our precious & richess!

Aimes : Glad to see you here friend. I know how happy you are to have Kelly in your life and I'm sure she serves as an inspiration to you everyday and whatever you do! Hope to see you soon.

Raquel : Thanks for visiting my BLOG. OO nga ano we have related topics, it was not intentional but I guess being a Mom we always have a lot of things to share...Have a nice Sunday & hoping that computer will get repaired this time!!!
Ladynred said…
Hi Haze,
Being a mother is a wonderful and a hard task. But love makes it all easy.

Your hubby's officemate is a great mother of triplets I'm sure. The hard one is when you work and leave out your kids with strangers. Sometimes we don't have a choice but to do it.
In my case I am blessed to have my mother taking care of my daughter while I'm at work.

HAve a great Sunday!
haze said…
Hi Ladynred thanks for hopping. Yes, she is indeed a great Mom. You're lucky to have your Mom taking care of your daughter (Mom knows best), then at work you can concentrate!
Have a nice day !