I love blogging, blogger friends and the strangers who visit my blog. I blog because I want to make friends, to learn from their experiences, to have their point of view, to have a subject of conversation and everything that concerns blogging which are profitable. Mainly, I am open to constructive criticism and most of all I don't like to have enemies ! This morning I had a visitor and he surprised me with his comment on my previous post (which I already erased). His exact comment was "Parang suicide note...." ("Seems to be a suicide note"). I was thankful that a stranger visited my blog but his message was very offending ! For your information, it was a thank you message for all the people who are dear to me, if in case you do not understand profound vocabularies , apparently you are a Filipino like me. The comment was signed not by his real name and without his blogging details (URL). I saw some of his comments which are also in my links with his URL so I said to myself he's a COWARD with bad intentions because he did not put his identity. Sorry, I was able to track you !
Even if it's a joke, I don't think that it is the right thing to say to a person especially if you do not know him/her. I was asking myself, do I deserve this kind of comment ? I myself do not have the courage to aggress people by comments such as this ! I've been sincere with all the comments I make in every blog I visit ! If I disagree to a certain post I will write what I think in a nice way or if the post is somewhat revolting I tell it frankly without hurting someone's feelings ! Sometimes, I don't understand that there are people who are capable of bitching.
This is not a kind of revenge but to remind YOU to please be nice ! I don't know you and I didn't do anything against you !
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I hope she/he won't do this on the other blogs again.
Some people are nice some or not so nice. It is a good reflection of our society.
I know this blogger and I am surprised he wanted to hurt you. Never had any problem with him.
Wasn't it just a bad misunderstanding?
I didn't follow what happened so I can't really give a honest opinion.
I've had commenters who have written me angry comments. that's happened a few times and, well, that's their opinion. I sometimes replied, other times, I just ignored their comment.
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minsan nga naman, di natin alam kung nakakasakit na tayo.. unless, intentionally...
what is most important, we should think and pause for a while before sending a message... :-)
You are a respected photojournalist SIDNEY
and I know you are used and susceptible with all of these good or bad comments! I am glad that you practice the Ethics of Journalism! I hope also that he is not trying to hurt me! It's better that way not to take sides ! I've seen some of his comments on your blog and other links that I have with me, that's why I was surprised of what he said ! Just to reiterate, I am open to critiscim but telling me that the POEM I made is a suicide note is INHUMAN ! I would understand if the poem I made was in French but it was in Tagalog ! BTW, excuse me for not having the translation !
Hi WIL thank you for passing by ! Have you read my poem then tell me honestly if it's a suicide note ?! I hope that you still speak and understand some tagalog words! The question were, was it a revolting post ? Did I offend someone there ? Don't you think that the word SUICIDE ( to kill oneself) is a very strong word while the poem that I made was to be grateful ? Don't you think it's Morbid ?
I have received another sarcastic comment but I responded diplomatically and calmly! I accept good or bad comments! But his comment is unacceptable and below the belt !
I must agree with you RICHARD ! But not all opinions are equal though. Some of them are of very low value, false and that could lead us to negative effects! Everyone is authorize of course to have their own opinion, but it wouldn't be right for me to accept every opinion as of equal value. If it's a faulty information then I should take an effort to correct it ! I am with you, read, think, stop to have a balance and rightful opinion !
I am glad of your visit !
u take care and God bless always.
I read your poem and it's very moving. Though I grew up speaking in Ilonggo (my dialect) I am also good in Tagalog but trust me, I can't write a poem as good as that hehe
I hope you are feeling better now.
but i hope you would not take this as taking sides. and probably this is one of the many experiences one has to receive being a blogger. and you have all the right to be mad. mon has been commenting also in my blog and sometimes, he gives clumsy comments. i do not justify his being immature in giving comments, but i think this is a result of his playful bloghopping, and probably no harm intended. i know it's careless and it is a good thing that somebody has to give him a pat on a shoulder to make him realize his carelessness.
lesson of the day: everyone should fully understand the content of a blog, and analyze the aftermath of even a short phrase.
Welcome to the famous VERNS ! I am glad that you found the poem moving. I know that you're an Illongga co'z I visit your site from time to time and commented once, I guess I should leave a trace more often. As an Illongga it's very rare that you speak and write fluent Tagalog co'z I know that the second language used is English. I have an Illonggo blood too co'z my father hails from Bacolod City Negros Occidental! I grew up hearing illonggo conversation and I understand a little bit :) ! I am sure that you are poet yourself !
P.s.
Let me take this chance to tell you that you are beautiful, I am sincere :) ! I feel better ;) !
Hi and welcome BINGSKEE ! Don't worry I am rational, I take this as an explanation and that you show no partialilty ! I know I have all the right to be angry co'z I was profoundly hurt. Maybe he visited me already but it's his first time to comment. My question is don't you think that for a first time commenter his message is approriate ? You called him as a careless blogger because you've knew him well in the blogsphere and I don't ! If I knew him long before I would have taken this as a joke and nothing serious ! I would have responded him " Buhay pa ako last will and testament ko na ang gusto mo" !
I think that a pat on the shoulder is not enough but a kick on the butt is more necessary (of course, I speak for those who know him better) !
My dear KALA I could tell to the whole world that I WAS MAD (which is rare) and I have the right to be ! Now that I have put into words the cause of my infuriating day, I feel sooooo much better, thanks !
You know, our perception of the things around us is related to what we are inside, to our own universe within. I would like to assume that he's just immature, tactless, or careless on his comments. Otherwise, my better explanation would be that he's a suicidal himself, or inclined to self- violence. *ROFL*
Great poem, Haze. Wow, such nice words!
P.S. I owe you an email. I'll write soon. Promise!
i thought the comment was in a wierd way .. humorous. its the type of humor thats kind of grim. i cant explain it well .. but i think s/he didnt mean any harm by it.
> tagalog (dilemma)
i think this is the price to pay for being multi-lingual. we all suffer from it. we express in tagalog but notice that we think in english. we also read and write better in english.
Take it as an experience.
Good or bad, it has teached us all, not only u.
Public blog is like an open restaurant, anyone has freedom to enter ("bitch".)
All of us GET BITCHED, LOL.
if he Mmeant or didnt meant it, fine.
Your happy days do not stop bec of it, di ba?
Happy Birthday ulit sa inyong dalawa ni Makis, sistah.
Thanks for the compliment ! Oo nga may utang na email ka hehehe ! Ok lang yon ! Take care and don't worry I am A Okay !
I can tell you that I also have a humour a lot RMACAPOBRE! But I don't consider this funny! The word Suicide is of morbid meaning! I would repeat that If he was in my blogroll I would have laughed, but for a first time visit, eerrrr, no hi and no hello barging in ?!
Hi Roberto Iza thank you for passing by !
Alaù ko pag bagong bisita bumabati muna ! Salamat sa dalaw MAIAH ! Unang una sa lahat hindi ko sya sinisisi gusto ko lang na magkapag isip isip sya na ang sinabi nya ay nakakasakit ! Ngayon kung yung ang interpretasyon nya sa ginawa kong tula ay parang pagpapakamatay hindi ka ba kinikilabutan ? Blog ko ito at may karapatan akong magalit kasi hindi ako plastik ! Kung isa ka sa kaibigan nya, hindi nakakapagtakang ipagtanggol mo sya! Ang pagkakaalam ko sa tunay na kaibigan kailangan mo ring sabihin at tingnan ang kanyang kamalian, hindi lang yung oras na tama ang tinitingnan and pinapupurihan!
TREPPENWITZ thank you for hopping will visit your site later !
I knew that when I started blogging FRANCESCA pero hindi ko alam na to this extent! Lesson learned ! Oo naman masaya na ako, naisulat ko na at nakarating na sa kanya ! As I have said it's not a revenge just trying to call his attention and to realise his acts !
I have learned from your experience din NAO ! Wala akong masabi sa sinabi mo ! KOREK KA DYAN ! Bisous !!!
having read your Tagalog poem (which I can honestly say is a very well written piece indeed), I say you have the right to get angry.
Anyway, it's my first time here and I am loving your posts... keep it up and don't let those nasty comments get to you :-)
To relate with you, I also get a lot of flack – from Filipinos and foreigners alike. I have stalkers. As if comments in my chatbox were not enough, some would dare to email me with their insults. There was one who even made a blog about me a while back, lol. They died off one at a time, after realizing that I won’t play with their bait. Although occasionally I still get the insults or bastus comments on my chatbox, but I ignore them when they go down below the belt.
Really, they are not worth my time. And this person is also not worth your time.
Cheer up!
I feel much better, co'z I was able to released what I have inside. That's what blogs are for di ba ! It's not just writing all about good stuffs but even our anger, frustrations, depressions, etc !
Again thanks!
Hi DP ! Thank you and I definitely agree with your advice! In fact, this is the 2nd offending message I had from a blogger! The last time was from an Anonymous but I responded him with all diplomacy because it was not really a big deal! As you have said we react differently to situations that confront us now I only reacted on this one to released me from anger ! This would be my first and last to call someone's attention if In any case, I will get back to my old method, ignore!
Really, someone dare to blog about you ! Receiving insults ? Oh no, I really admire you for having a passive reaction, next time I'll do the same!
I feel good NICHEART! I am okey that peolple have no bias reaction, stay that way ! Count me in for good or bad comments but not bellow the belt especially when I speak about my family and friends! They are important to me ! People, blog contents and perception differ greatly from each other but let's not forget the code of ethics too !
I think, it's not the question if you are agree or not, or if you put negative comments on a certain post but it's how you deliver them ! Some opinions could be severe but they are well said without hurting the author of the blog despite of disagreement on certain points!
And yes Blogging is a wonderful medium of expression ;) Thanks a lot!
I presumed you just gave birth just last month, congratulations ! I would be glad to meet you in person with my other Pinay friends! I live in Marseille ;) !
It's your right to feel offended, but personally -- if that's all he said, "Parang suicide note" -- I'm inclined to think he was just being wry. Or facetious. He wasn't as appreciative, as most of us are, of the effort you made - but I honestly doubt it was meant to be a deadly insult. Mahirap kasi sa blogworld, we don't see the full mood or intent or environment of the commenter, or the blogger for that matter.
(I certainly don't think your verse sounded like a suicide note. No! It was full of love and gratitude, swak na swak sa birthday theme).
Peace and beaucoup de hugs :-)
Lou
cheers haze. at least you know the intention of your poem, dont get distracted by careless commenters.. marami talagang pasaway sa mundo hehehe...
miss our chat na..
Hahaha ngayon lang naman ako nagalit ANALYSE ! I stopped for a moment and re-read my poem, well, I don't know if it's well written but what I know is it was written with so much gratitude and love! Thanks, and I hope on your end everything is okay especially for Louna !
Sige lang, I'll wait for you online :) !